Pity fosters negativity. The truth is, alot of us with a disability have great potential. Please try to focus on our strengths and gifts, not our limitations. Don’t exclude us because you are afraid we will not be able to keep up or participate in what you are doing.
We appreciate your lack of inclusiveness may very well be coming from a thoughtful place, and that some activities are obviously not for us; however most of the time we prefer to be included. Ask the question instead of making an assumption to encourage dialogue and a chance to discuss ways to address potential obstacles.
Confidence and Insecurities
We all want to feel good about ourselves. Self – confidence is difficult to achieve when we believe we are seen as a burden to others. We realize our involvement may require time and planning not otherwise necessary, but these modifications are an integral part of who we are. Just as you might change your dinner menu for someone with diabetes, you might need to make accommodations for a wheelchair bound individual.
Children With Disabilities
School aged children with disabilities are particularly vulnerable to exclusion. Why is it these kids end up in activities with advisors who are willing to work with them, rather than in those they most enjoy? Access to groups is often limited by a lack of understanding about their needs, lack of teacher training and an unconducive school environment. Denying children with disabilities their right to the same school experience as children without has a lifelong impact on learning.
Disability and Happiness Frequently Coexist
Society, in my opinion, seems to believe disability and happiness cannot coexist. Please know many of us lead productive and meaningful lives, full of love and laughter. We want the opportunity to share our joys and talents with others. Our physical mobility issues do not define us, and we do not want your pity.